Thursday 18 June 2015

Can Love be Arranged?


So my best friend is getting married-“an arranged marriage”. Like every other girl she also dreamed of her prince charming, no not someone coming on a white horse, but a person who will be her soul-mate and be with her for entire life. Now when she has found someone or more specifically her parents had found someone for her, has she finally found her prince charming? Will she be able to find love in this perfectly arranged “arrange marriage”?

They say love is the ultimate feeling in this universe, that there is nothing beyond it. Every person has a different definition of love. For some love is respect, for others its caring and sharing, for some it is being together in every phase of life. But when two people come together in an arranged marriage setup, what are the things that bind them together? Does love happen with time? Many of you will say yes, they do fall in love in most of the cases. But is that love or just a feeling of attachment, or a forceful love that happens because now you have to spend your life with your spouse so why not start loving him. Can you really find your soul mate in an arranged marriage or you only start adjusting?

   Though according to statistics arranged marriages are more successful as compared to love marriages but do that success rate come from pure love or because of family pressure and social desirability factor. Now this is a million dollar question right!

Whatever be the answer for this question, I just wish she can find all the happiness of the world and true love knocks her door!

8 comments:

  1. It doesn't' matter whether the marriage is arranged or if people in love get married (I have seen both fall apart in a matter of months, no matter how long they have known each other or 'loved' each other). What matters is how much you care about the person. If you will get to a point where you love the person enough to accept the person that they are beyond the one you love.

    A very happy married life to your friend :)

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    1. Very rightly said, maybe acceptance is the key!!

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  2. Family pressures can there be in love marriages too and all the more coz family is always ready with a dialogue saying, 'this was your choice' and then you really cannot go back on what you did. u are always judged. your love always evaluated. inact, in arranged marriage you always have the window (both sides) to work on your marriage coz you know there is still something left to know about each other!

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    1. So very true, we all think that grass is greener on other side while the truth is every relation need same efforts.

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  3. I really think that love happens unexpected... Unplanned...
    In arranged marriage, people get habituated... they adjust to each other... compromise... When they realize that they cant, they try to get out of the wedlock. But due to parental and societal pressures they stay. However, few others indeed; very rare though.

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    1. Exactly and those rare ones are really lucky na!!

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